Blog post 3: Erotomania: A Crush Gone too far.

When we found someone attractive, we build a foundation. It's called crush. When we have a crush, we like to think about them often, get to know them better and mostly, have a relationship with them. The person you have a crush on could be attracted to you also. Or if not, the feelings will start to crumble and eat you alive. 

But... What happens when you let your crush overpower your emotion and your mind? What will happen when you let it go too far?

Some says, It may lead to Erotomania.

But, what is Erotomania? 

Erotomania is a type of delusion in which the affected person believes that another person, usually a stranger or famous person, is in love with him or her. 

The target is often a celebrity, politician, or other high-status person, but people with erotomania may also develop feelings on random strangers and acquaintances. Erotomania has also been termed de Clerambault’s syndrome, after the French psychiatrist who identified the behavior.

According to the article "Erotomania: When heart defies reason" , by David Beme, A scientist named Dr. Benoit Dalle said that: “Erotomaniacs are firmly convinced that the person they love does everything they can to hide their passion, with the help of the people around them. Their fevered imagination allows them to construe anything the least bit unusual as a confirmation of what they believe is true.”

The erotomanic stalker interprets everything you do coded messages, confessing to and conveying your eternal devotion to him and to your "relationship". Erotomaniacs can be called a stalker too. To show his interest, he keeps on texting, calling, e-mailing, or even talking to your friends, family or co-workers.The erotomaniac usually decides for your financial, legal and emotional decision without your proper consent and knowledge. They intrudes your privacy and does not give a damn about your opinion or feelings because they believe that you are in love with them so they feel free on what they're doing. 

I read somewhere that Erotomania mostly affects woman in middle-age. It has also been considered to be obsessive compulsive disorder. It is very different from Nymphomania, a very strong desire for sex. Erotomania is not about sexual desire. It is about desire for a relationship and affection. 

According to the article, "Erotomania" by American Psychological Association, The primary symptom of erotomania is an unassailable belief that another person is in love with you. Common behaviors associated with erotomania include: One, You believe that your target is sending out secret messages to you. Two, If you feel like you're obsessed with him/her and you enjoy stalking, letter-writing and others just to make a contact. Three, The belief that the target is in love with the person despite all evidence to the contrary. If the target takes out a restraining order, the person with erotomania might believe this is a secret message encouraging him or her to pursue even more forcefully.

Erotomania is a very dangerous type of psychological disorder.An Erotomanic will go to extremes in order to get what they want. There are cases when an Eretomanic became vindictive just to revenge themselves. Just a piece of advice, be aware of people around you.