But for some reason, What is a nice guy? Okay, abadgaemof Reddit.com wrote a brief introduction about it on her thread called, "Nice Guy Syndrome: What it is and why you should kill it with fire"
A woman has a close male friend. This means that he is probably interested in her, which is why he hangs around so much. She sees him strictly as a friend. This always starts out with, you’re a great guy, but I don’t like you in that way. This is roughly the equivalent for the guy of going to a job interview and the company saying, You have a great resume, you have all the qualifications we are looking for, but we’re not going to hire you. We will, however, use your resume as the basis for comparison for all other applicants. But, we’re going to hire somebody who is far less qualified and is probably an alcoholic. And if he doesn’t work out, we’ll hire somebody else, but still not you. In fact, we will never hire you. But we will call you from time to time to complain about the person that we hired.
Seriously, all we can hear from them is all their whining why they can't have a date. They believe that they can't have one because, they are too nice. " Nice guys finish last." That's a common aphorism developed about nice guys.
Jeff Fecke of Shakesville.com explained Nice Guy Syndrome on his article, "Explainer: What is a Nice Guy?"
"All right. Seriously. A Nice Guy is a guy who tells you, in a bitter, resentful tone, that women don't date "nice guys," they only date "bad boys," and because he's "too nice," women only view him as a friend."
That's so bullshit right? It sounded like they are indicating that women who doesn't want to bang them are whores, bitches or sluts. I read somewhere that the real truth of that matter is that there are genuinely caring, compassionate, decent, fun guys out there who have NO TROUBLE meeting people, getting dates, and having relationships. Unfortunately, many of the guys who DO have trouble, insist that women don't want them because they are "too Nice". People who call themselves "Nice Guys" are actually the one with the problems but doesn't see it because he believes that he is "too nice".
Just so you know, the men who have "Nice guy syndrome" are not really nice.
Sarah Moon on hear article "Continued Thoughts on Nice Guy Syndrome" explains why:
First, Being “nice” just to get something isn’t really nice. He will rush to her side when she’s sad, listen to her problems, and let her cry on his shoulder.But when she starts dating someone else, what happens? The man will start to complain about being stuck in the “friend zone.” He may even become hostile, referring to her as a bitch, or a whore, or more likely he will insult her intelligence, calling her an idiot for not picking him. Second, Objectifying women isn’t really nice: Men with Nice Guy Syndrome act as if the world is a vending machine that trades niceness for women. If they are nice and don’t end up with a woman, they feel that they have been cheated. Invalidating a woman’s choice isn’t really nice: A man with Nice Guy Syndrome is quick to judge any other man that his love interest starts dating. He will become skeptical and over-protective. He will speedily label the other man a jerk, and will tell his friends that the girl is stupid for dating him.
See, they are not so nice at all. They are just manipulating people on how we see them. But the real truth is, they are the one with the problems. They are the jerk and the assholes. What kind of men will judge a women if they don't like him back? What kind of men will judge another competitor just because the women didn't chose him instead?
If you call a woman a bitch, a slut, ugly, or other nasty insults because she doesn’t want you, you are not nice. It makes you a fucking asshole. If you’re only nice to a woman because you want to get inside her pants, you are not nice. And if you whine about constantly being Friend Zoned, it’s probably because you are not nice. End of story.
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